Entries for May, 2005

May 9th, 2005

n Essay I Wrote for the Girl Scouts

Challenges Faced By Todays Young Women
by
G*R*RD*L* *NN *P* B*L*NT*C
LEYTE COUNCIL


Although men and women are equal in today’s society (in theory), in actual practice they are not.

With increasing urbanization and industrialization of our country, gender roles are continually being altered. Women still has to conquer gender biases, which limits themselves into their prescribed sex roles-modest, quite, gentle, sweet, if not submissive.

The Philippines, has a young population; six out of ten Filipino is aged 24 and below and half of these are girls. One of the biggest problems of society is the commercialization of education. With the privatization of education, tuition fees keeps on getting higher causing many children to drop out of school and eventually stop studying. They would then get a job to help support their family.

Female students are open to discrimination by men just because they are a “she” and not a “he”. All women, whether oppressed or the oppressor are considered by society as inferior to men.

In and out of the school campus, they are open to sexual exploitation. Many women are raped or else sexually abused by their own father, brother or else an uncle and even worse, by their own grandfathers! In school, many are abused by their male teachers with the “kama or kwatro” scheme. Women are continually being shown signs of disrespect by the opposite sex. They get catcalls, pawed at and gets dirty looks and hear trash talks from men in the streets.

Women are considered as temptations. They are said to lead men to sin and the Church with the story of Adam and Eve further supports this. This is why the initial reaction of authorities is to find fault in the female sexual abuse victim. And this is also the main reason why women would choose to keep silent about their case.

With economic pressure, poverty and insufficient family income, a lot of women students especially those in college falls into the oldest profession, prostitution; a symptom of basic structural problem in our semi-feudal and semi-colonial society. With the imbalance of the development of rural and urban areas, a wide disparity of access to wealth and jobs results. Women in this profession are considered as an economic commodity and a sexual merchandise that can bring profit. Students would often engage in sexual relations in an impersonal transaction for financial gain. They use what they earn to tide over the expense of their tuition fees, thus this profession is often referred to us prosti-tuition.

Pregnancy at an early age is also a major crisis a young girl has to face.

With the feudal-patriarchal society and ideology we have, women are under the authority and influence of a male member of her family considered as the padre de familia: the decision maker.

In this system, the home is considered to be the place of a woman. Even if she may be working in the field or in factories or offices the whole day, she is still expected to do all the household chores. The womans affinity to doing household works affects the her role in our economy. Womens production output is considered secondary. Often times, they are obliged to stop going to work or else do overtime just to be able to do the household chores and take care of the children.

Women would usually have jobs that are an extension of their role in their household. Often they would be hired as waitresses, dressmaker or assembly line worker or else as teachers, nurse or as a secretary. This in a way is also a form of brain drain, an under employment where women are deskilled just because of their sex.

Women are often at a disadvantage especially when they are young or on the childbearing stage because employers would think that their services would be disrupted by maternity leaves and by their children being ill. The take-home pay of a wife as well as her successful career is often the source of tension within the family. The husband often develops certain inferiority because of the status of his wife.

Not only has the Church, government, our family and educational institutions plays a role in polluting our way of thinking, mass media also breeds in us a mentality that women are mere sex objects. Products being sold would often include beautiful, sexy women in semi-nude state. A beauty contest wouldn’t be complete without the swimsuit competition.

In radio and tv programs, movies and books, women would often be depicted as the good housewife, martyr wife or mother, and adulteress and homewrecker or a victim of lust and abuse of men.

Mass media influences society to measure womans worth by her ability to attract a guy. Imperialism has exploited the beauty and ability of women to attract men. In job ads, you would often find “pleasing personality” as a requisite. With this measure of beauty, Filipino’s continually foster their colonial mentalities. A beautiful woman according to mass media is someone who has fair complexion, rosy cheeks, a high nosebridge, slim and sexy, tall and always smells good. This kind of mentality pushes women to buy expensive soaps and lotions to smoothen and lighten the color of their skin, rouge to redden their lips and cheeks and take supplements to increase their height. No wonder papaya soaps and Cherifers don’t go out of stock!

Imperialism makes a business out our bodies. Companies would use women to sell their products. At times even a Filipina’s body is used as a commodity in the sex industry here and abroad. In the tourism program of the government, the Filipinas beauty and submissiveness is used as an attraction for foreign visitors. Mail order brides, sex trafficking and sex tourism are high dollar earners in our country.

The double standards of society is a perpetual struggle for us women. It is a challenge for us. A roadblock we need to conquer. We, as women should have full and equal rights as men. Our potentials should be used to the fullest because we are the other half in the road to a successful nation-building.

We should overcome the constraints society has imposed on us. We should participate in politics and economy in order to ensure recognition. We should not allow ourselves to be constrained by societies double-standards. We, in our own little way should impose our rights and make a difference. This will not only benefit ourselves but also the future generation.

Go girl power!
Posted by weepingwillow at 02:17 AM | keep me awake!!!

May 12th, 2005

right Now!!

Right now, at this very moment i feel really mad.
...at myself
...at my tita ahmmm
and I want to vent out!!!
i can't do it in my diary coz one of my aunts is a snoop dog!!!
gawd!!!
i keep this house tidy to the point of not touching or moving anything yet here is my sloppy aunt messing everything!!!
What irks me are the ff.:
a. putting the left over and spoiled food at the ref even though it's already worth to be thrown out
b.leaving used sanitary napkins just about anywere and even at the dining table
c.a pack rat who refuses to throw ancient and onsolete worthless papers
whaaaa..i still ahve lots to complain!!!
my tita uhmmm..would scold me for not cleaning the house and messing it up when in fact its not MEEE!!!!!!!!
capisce?
NOT ME!!!!!!
right now the house smells like a rotten fruit stand cause my dear tita has left her pineapple peeling lying around!!!
she's so intelligent for chrissakes!!!
i even consider her nutty at times because she insists that i should wash her eating utensils twice and boil them yet here she is...a total fiasco!!!!!!
damn!!!
im not neat or tidy or anything..but she's double-triple-quadruple blah blah blah me!!!!!
Posted by weepingwillow at 11:03 AM | keep me awake!!!

April 8








Your Birthdate: April 8

Born on the 8th day of the month, you have a special gift for business, as you can conceive and plan on a grand scale.

You have good executive skills and you're a good judge of values.

You should try to own your own business, because you have such a strong desire to be in control.



You are generally reliable when it comes to handling money; you can be trusted in this regard.

Idealistic by nature, you are never too busy to spend some time on worthwhile causes, especially if managerial support are needed.

There is much potential for material success associated with this number.



What Does Your Birth Date Mean?

Posted by weepingwillow at 11:14 AM | keep me awake!!!

May 21st, 2005

Quarter Life Crisis

Some people have mid-life crisis or teenage crisis, even identity crisis. But me? I have what i call my QUARTER LIFE CRISIS.
I was with my gang- the WAFO GANG just an hour ago at Roy's house for fiesta. Almost everyone was there except for Christian who has gone to the after life already.
For the roll call..
Ruel was there. although he is gaining weight these days. Still cute though.
Jude Kapal s I call him was also present. I'm happy that he is not as mahangin and irritating as before. I guess I'm getting used to his presence; him being my neighbor and all. He is nice to me after all so I find no reason for my hostility.
Bern, as usual is so aloft. We don't exchange hi nor hello. Even a look or a smile. So foreign and so distant yet we've known each other since high school.
Jojie is a different story. This guy has a pretty face. Too pretty for a boy. But with his llong hair he has this roguish look that would make bakla's salivate. Jojie is a different story. If we do't exchange words, it's understandable since we seldom see each other and uhmm..seldom socialize.
Ricart, ever reliable. One of my greatest friends and treasure. HE is always there for me. He might keep you waiting but you know can always count on him to back you up. A really funny guy who thinks he is the pinaka-goodlooking in this planet ergo the wafo gang.
Moi moi came in late wearing his nursing standard white pants and white loafers. He looks like he has came from a taekwondo dojo. Still cute and baby faced. He is an Aphio, just like Ema, Liza and Me.
Marc Leo or Boom, my dear cousin sang this song he made for my bestfriend Ema." Na-late Lang Ako". He introduced me to his girlfriend, Dora Fe. Dora was my classmate in elementary. Dora kept telling me all these chikas about me which are all hogwash. Gosh! Come to think of it, Marc loves Doras-Dora Fe and Emmadora.
Emmadora or Ema or Tata, my bestest bestfriend in the whole wide world. She's sweet and kind and evything. Just like her twin Liza who is also my bestest bestfriend in the whole wide world. Sadly Liza is in Maniila right now making up for her failed subject under the biased sir Petilla. Yes Sir if you are reading this I think you give unfair grades. I'm still not over my Philippine History.
Simon, Ema's bf dropped us off at Roy's house. He is really weird. Maybe it's because he has an IQ of a genius. Ema told me he would rattle off about quantum theory duirng their talks. Harharhar. Imagine that! Sooo boring unless you are Marie Curie.
Roy by the way is the owner of the house we went to. He is Liza's ex boyfriend. He still pines for my bestfriend *sigh*. Roy has been my classmate from first year to fourth year high school so we are kindda close.
Genie is our best guy bud. He has been slowly drifting away from us since we started college. It's so nice to hang out with him again and laugh and joke around. I missed this guy. He is a great listener.
Nyx gave me this internet card I'm using right now. Sobrang consintidor. Great guy. I once had a crush on him in high school. HAHAHAHA.
Robie
Rexel
Seph
Posted by weepingwillow at 10:16 PM | 1 shake

June 1st, 2005

I found me a BIJAN groto

i was blog hopping a while a go and lookee what i found!!!a groto dedicated for my fwend bijan(ei bijan if ur reading this u swindled us!!!harharhar we need our hundred bucks back) anyways..this site www.tabulas.com/~love_hate..has pics of bijan plastered all over it..waaaa ahehehehehe can't wait to tell bijan bout this..baka si stalker namn to.hmmm...
Posted by weepingwillow at 06:37 AM | 1 shake

I HATE MY EX

My second post for the daya nd it's all because I remembered darren..
damn him!!
super feeler!!
super mahangin!!!
he called me epicine last night at tacloban. i don't know what epicine means so i looked it up in the dictionary..it means sexless!!!???duh!!!
tell me?am i sexless really?like a neuter?i've got boobs and all the faculties a girl could have so that means i have SEX!!! after all!!!
and when i pointed that to him he said---
WyRdGaL: i'm not sexless
jmark: na ano ka waray man ak ha m pan labot
(what's wrong with you?i'm ignoring you..(or roughly that)
jmark: sunod nla paki away
(let's fight next time)
duh!as if i'm interested in holding a conversation w/ him. I was just pointing out that he misused a word!!!
damn guys!!
i hate guys!!!
Posted by weepingwillow at 07:52 AM | keep me awake!!!